Teenage Depression

Be aware of some of the more common signs of teenage depression (just because your teen has some of these symptoms does not necessarily mean they are depressed, however, these symptoms likely warrant further investigation): Sadness, anger, irritability, moodiness, loss of energy, withdrawing from people or things they used to enjoy, feelings of worthlessness, missing school, “not caring” anymore about school or personal appearance, somatic complaints. If your teenager is having thoughts of death or suicide you should seek professional support and help immediately and not try to manage this type of situation on your own. If they are experiencing some of the other symptoms mentioned, try to talk with them about what they are experiencing in a supportive manner. If needed, speak with a professional or their doctor to make sure they are not in need of professional support.

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Parents Need Time Outs Too!

Parents need time outs too! There are inevitably times when you will have a strong reaction, feel overwhelmed or feel “out of control” due to your teen’s behaviors. In such situations, it can be very helpful to take a time out. You might go for a walk, go in the bathroom and take a bath or run cold water on your face, go for a drive, go to a quiet place in the house and read a book – the important things is that you take a break from whatever is causing the stress so that you can feel calmer before reacting or responding to the situation. Doing this will make your response more appropriate and meaningful to your teen.

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They Are Not "Bad Kids"

Don’t ever tell your teen they are a “bad kid”. In addition, don’t treat them like they are a “bad kid”. If your teen believes this is how you feel about them, they will live up to (or in this case, down to) your expectation and they will play the role of a “bad kid”. No matter how hard things get or how frustrating their behaviors are, you should continue to notice the positives in them. They will sense that you do not look down on them and that you still see their positive qualities. It can make a huge difference in their overall self perception and identity, even if they are having some other difficulties.

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Protect But Don't Overprotect

As a parent you want to protect your child and make sure they are safe, however, you do not want to become overprotective. Overprotective parents don’t allow their child to experience the normal challenges of life which may result in disappointment, failure and sadness. In addition, being overprotective can result in teenagers not experiencing the natural consequences of poor decision making which is a valuable lesson to learn. It is important to see the value in children experiencing both life’s ups and downs and appreciating the life lessons they learn in both.

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Teens Are Expensive!

Does your teenager think you have endless amounts of money? Do they think that you are the worst parent in the world if you won’t give them money for the latest gadget or thing that “everyone else in the whole world has” so therefore they also “have to have”. Teens need to learn delayed gratification and that there are limits to what they can have. Saying no, helping them budget or make choices or helping them wait until a special event are all great ways of teaching your teen the meaning of money and of patience. The key is that if you say no to buying them something, you cannot then “give in” and go buy it because they are continuing to badger you or make you feel guilty about your decision. Be consistent and stick to what you said!


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Getting Support For Yourself

You should seek outside help for your teen if they have become violent or aggressive, are regularly using or abusing drugs or alcohol, if they are running away, if they are getting involved with the law, if you are feeling like you need to resort to violence as a means of managing their behavior or if you feel they are engaging in other risky or dangerous behaviors. The consequences of not addressing such behaviors can be significant and parents in this situation are in need of outside, professional support to help get things back on track for their teen and for their family as a whole.

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Saying "NO" And Sticking To It

Learning to say “NO” to your teenager can be a huge challenge. Teenagers don’t like hearing the word NO and can be pretty creative in getting parents to change their minds or in wearing their parents down until they say “YES”. While this can be an exhausting process at first – it is important that if you say NO to something that you stand firm in your decision. Get support from others if needed but after a several times of saying NO and really meaning it (meaning you don’t give in or change your mind), your teen will learn that NO really does mean NO and they will stop their efforts to badger you and wear you down.

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