Do you lack communication with your male teenager? Do you feel like they live in their room and you hardly see them let alone know anything that is going on in their life? Are they constantly out with friends yet you have no idea who these friend are, who their families are or what they do when they spend time together? Do they decline your offers to spend time doing family things? If any or all of these scenarios apply to your son, you have a pretty typical teenage boy.
- The first and strongest reason for boys behaving in this way is that they are working towards achieving independence and in order to do this, they need to separate from you, who they have depended on for so many years of their life. They do not know how to do this thoughtfully or gracefully (or may not even really realize they are doing it) so they just isolate from you as a way of not feeling so dependent on you.
- Secondly, it is normal for boys to be embarrassed about changes going on as their bodies mature. Boys also experience an increase in sexualized feelings which can be overwhelming and not something they want to discuss with their parents.
- Finally, it is very normal during adolescence for friends to become more important than parents or other family members. This is not a negative reflection on the family but rather a shift from seeing the family as the center of the world to really wanting to discover the larger world that is out there as a way of establishing independence.
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